DON’T “SHOULD” ON YOURSELF

OR ALLOW OTHERS TO DO SO

Often, “you should” is more instruction than suggestion. Beware who may be attempting to control your life and why vs. one who is concerned about your well being and is merely offering a suggestion. Interpretation lies in the context.

I question when not another person but I myself am the “shoulder”, instructing myself. I must ask myself, “From where does this apparent admonition come? Did I chose it, and if so why, or did someone else choose this “should” instruction?” Or, is it simply a suggestion?

Ever have that nagging feeling there is something you should do, but don’t have a clue what it is? If so, you likely also feel a nagging, undefined guilt for something about which you do not have a clue.

Seems our society has infected many of us with these unreasonable considerations. The only thing I know to do about this is recognize the feelings, and ask “what” and “why”. Apply logic and reasoning to your ghosts. Are they real haunts, or fakes?

Unfounded, discomforting feelings melt under rational examination. We have enough legitimate demands made upon us without wasting time and energy on unreal haunts.

What I’m saying is, be easier on yourself. Accept the fact that you are OK. No performance necessary. Breathe deeply, relax face, hands, feet. Didn’t know you had so much constant tension, did you?

Did you catch it? The previous paragraph is one long “should”. It seems some “shoulds” are…