OUR COMMON NEEDS

AND HOW TO MEET THEM

What do most of us have in common?

We need to feel OK about ourselves, realistically so. It seems to me most people have significant self doubt about some aspect of their lives, sometimes about every aspect of their lives.

Others feel very pleased with themselves, some to the point of hubris. These folks have difficulty ever saying, “I’m sorry”. They can’t admit fault or failure or shortcoming. Often they are narcissistic, but not always. They consider themselves always right. Anyone who disagrees is simply wrong. They are often sociopathic, and quite successful in business, thus enhancing their sense of self-worth.

But, back to the rest of us. We, too, can be successful in the world, but we see it as good luck, resulting from things for which we can take no credit. This is not altogether bad. It helps keep ego in check.

But, down deep, in our secret selves, we doubt ourselves, and long for reassurance that we really are OK.

Other common needs:

We need a sense of place, a sense of respect from others.

We need hope for improvement in relationships, in expressions of creativity, for a sense of real value to others. We hope for confidence, in spite of current news, a sense of foreboding, even fear for the future for ourselves and our progeny,

that somehow extraordinary negatives will self-correct, perhaps through Divine intervention, or some other unforeseeable…